Location: San Jose, California
- Process Additions-focused Candidate: Codependency, Porn/Love/Sex, Complex Trauma, Abandonment, Video Games, Technology, Food
- Identity Affinities: BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, Men’s Intimacy
- Health: Harm-reduction, MAT (Medication Assisted Treatment), CBT Therapy, Anxiety, Depression, Sleep Apnea, Insomnia
- RD Inquiry Circle Startup Kit – Co-creator of Inquiry Circles “Startup Kit”: Empowering RD members with confidence and motivation to work the Inquiries in weekly peer-led mutual support groups, with or without mentors (important in early formational period of RD).
- RD Meetings Co-creator: True Intimacy (Lust & Love Dependency) -> (We have 3 meetings!)
- RD Meetings Co-creator: BIPOC -> (We have 2 meetings!)
- RD Meetings Co-creator: The 4 Heart Practices (We meditate on the Brahma Viharas. We have 2 meetings!)
- recoverydharma.org (RDG): IT Volunteer
- 2020 Sangha Summit Committee: Fundraising, Welcome packets creator, T-shirts designer, Bookmarks, Cheatsheets
Livelihood: In my early adulthood, I was a software programmer–logical and efficient (but introverted and lacking social skills). In later adulthood, I began to understand the importance in society of developing gentle, positive inspiring communication skills (such as motivational interviewing).
Unique Skills: Creative audio/visual nerd. I have led many small teams through my career. Experienced in building visions into reality, I’ve started 3 financially viable LLCs (producing varied products and negotiated contracts with clients). Some areas I’ve had experience with and can contribute to are RD Literature, Fundraising/Merchandise, IT.
- Began AA recovery 13 years ago. Renunciations: Alcohol 2 yrs, Other drugs 1.5 years, Lust 1 year, Porn 3 months. Currently working on Codependency recovery. Growing in self-love and self-care, especially in terms of my Non-Binary identity and nurturing both feminine and masculine spirits that I inherit from each of my parents.
- Daily Meditation: 6 months. I’m kind of obsessed with understanding and practicing the Heart Practices, and the Dharma as a whole. I love to create Buddhsist Cheat sheets and mnemonics to help memorize different parts of the Dharma by heart.
- In a conflict, my basic approach:
- 1st. Assume good intent. If there is harm, I first always assume it occurs from pain & confusion.
- 2nd. Don’t react limbic-ly. Wait to respond when metta, joy, compassion, and mental calmness are present.
- 3rd. Understand the needs, find common grounds, decide what matters, reach a middle way.
- 4th. Reconsider my attachment, be prepared to let go, take it as a learning experience.
- As a POC, I’ve faced adversities of exclusion, othering, inequality lifelong, most of the time not realizing it was happening. A co-founder of BIPOC meetings and identifying as NB, I’ve gained and experienced skills and language that most peacefully facilitates equity and inclusion as compassionate goals that make RD accessible to the most underserved and most quiet voices.
- In recovery, I believe we each have a superpower that is potentialized by owning our own story, transforming suffering and great pain into a source of shared understanding and greater healing.
- I’m interested in (A) using wise communication to motivate others to chase their recovery like they chased their addictions. (B) ensuring that the most underserved and underprivileged have free access to recovery with Recovery Dharma, to prioritize equity (diversity) training in our progressive American-born Buddhist-inspired community.
- (A) I’m part of a group of RD members who are actively scaling RD by encouraging members to complete their inquiries in groups of mutual support circles, which is resulting in a 1:Many recovery blossoming–these methods are based on evidence-based research for impressively successful recovery rates: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yDxwNpegYPo . (B) Another strategy involves fundraising and merchandising Recovery Dharma goods/wearables that make Recovery Dharma fun. Both these projects are ongoing attainable goals that have already manifested.
- As a grassroots organization, it’s my hope that our RDG Board can rise to the needs of our sanghas at ground level. This is a program of empowerment; you are Recovery Dharma – so let’s do this.
I’m grateful for your consideration to be of service, Thomas Tran (they/he)